15 Signs You Might Be Dating a Psychopath (Run, Girl, Run!)

Ladies, we’ve all had our share of dating disasters, but what if your latest romantic interest is more American Psycho than The Notebook? Psychopaths aren’t just the stuff of crime documentaries—they could be lurking in your dating apps, looking charming and totally normal… until they’re not.

Before you get in too deep, here are 15 warning signs to watch out for. If your man ticks more than a few of these boxes, it might be time to grab your heels and sprint.

1. He’s Too Charming, Too Fast

At first, he’s Prince Charming on steroids—showering you with compliments, grand gestures, and intense declarations of love (“I’ve never felt this way before”—on date two). It’s called love bombing, and it’s designed to make you fall fast before the real him appears.

Fix It: Slow things down. If he’s rushing the relationship, that’s a red flag.

2. He Has a Sketchy Past, But It’s Never His Fault

He got fired because his boss “hated him.” His ex was “crazy.” He had so many toxic friends. If every relationship in his life ends in disaster (and it’s never his fault), guess what? He’s the common denominator.

Fix It: If he blames everyone else for his problems, he’s likely dodging accountability.

3. His Eyes Go Dead When He’s Angry

You’re mid-argument, and suddenly, his entire face switches off. No emotion, no remorse, just an eerie, unsettling blank stare. It’s as if you’re arguing with a reptile.

Fix It: Trust your instincts—if his anger feels unnatural or scary, it’s time to go.

4. He’s Got the Emotional Range of a Teaspoon

Empathy? What’s that? Psychopaths lack real emotions, so while he might pretend to care, it feels… off. Your dog dies, and he says, “That sucks.” You cry, and he looks bored.

Fix It: If he struggles to show genuine concern for your feelings, he does not care.

5. He Lies Like It’s a Sport

Caught him lying? He doesn’t even flinch. In fact, he’s so good at it, you almost start to believe you got it wrong. His ability to twist reality is Olympic-level.

Fix It: If you catch him lying regularly, don’t stick around to see what else he’s capable of.

6. He Has No Close Friends

Sure, he has a lot of acquaintances, but where are his lifelong friends? Oh right, they all “screwed him over.” A psychopath moves through life burning bridges—because once people figure him out, they leave.

Fix It: If he has no solid friendships, ask yourself why.

7. He Gets Bored Too Easily

Psychopaths crave excitement like the rest of us crave chocolate. He might constantly need new experiences, new people, or even new drama just to feel alive.

Fix It: If he seems addicted to chaos, don’t become his next thrill.

8. He Gaslights Like a Pro

You: “You said you’d call.”
Him: “I never said that. You’re imagining things.”

Gaslighting is when someone manipulates you into questioning your reality. If you constantly feel confused or crazy around him—it’s not you.

Fix It: Trust your gut, not his revisionist history.

9. He Has an Ego the Size of a Small Country

He thinks he’s smarter, better, and more everything than everyone else. He dismisses other people’s opinions, and if you dare criticize him? Oh boy.

Fix It: If he can’t handle even mild feedback, he’s not relationship material.

10. He Plays the Victim Like an Oscar-Winner

Something bad always happens to him. And while, sure, we all have rough patches, he seems to attract constant injustice. Or does he just create it?

Fix It: If he’s always the victim, you’ll eventually be the villain in his story.

11. He’s Secretive About… Everything

Where does he work? What’s his last name? Why does his phone never leave his hand? If getting basic information from him feels like pulling teeth, he’s hiding something.

Fix It: If you can’t get clear answers, don’t stick around for his mystery novel.

12. He’s Weirdly Obsessed With Power

Does he love controlling situations? Does he push limits, just to see what he can get away with? That’s a power trip, and it’s a big red flag.

Fix It: If he enjoys making you feel small, he is dangerous.

13. He’s Reckless and Impulsive

One day he quits his job on a whim, the next he’s gambling his rent money. Psychopaths thrive on impulsive behavior, and that usually leads to disaster.

Fix It: If he’s unstable, your relationship will be too.

14. He’s Hot and Cold—And It’s Messing With Your Head

One minute he’s all over you, the next he’s distant and uninterested. He keeps you hooked by making you crave his attention.

Fix It: This is emotional manipulation. Don’t play his game.

15. You Feel Like Something Is Off

The biggest sign? Your intuition is screaming at you. If something about him just feels wrong, trust yourself. You don’t need a dramatic aha moment—your gut knows before your brain does.

Fix It: If you constantly feel uneasy, that’s all the reason you need to walk away.

So, What Now?

If your guy matches a few of these traits, that doesn’t automatically make him a full-blown psychopath—but it does mean you should be cautious. If he ticks a lot of these boxes, you might want to exit stage left… and never look back.

Ladies, life is too short for mind games, manipulation, and reptilian boyfriends. If you sense danger, listen to yourself. There are plenty of good men out there—just make sure yours isn’t one psychological thriller away from starring in Dateline.